Monday, May 31, 2010

Oh that stuff.


I think I know one reason why if "a woman has long hair it is a glory to her." Credit is due any woman who can figure out how to take care of the stuff! Sometimes I just don't know what to do with my hair. Can any of you relate?

And I just trimmed it two days ago. It's not like I'm going to cut it much shorter. I think my trouble has something to do with the fact that my hair is curly. If I brush it, it's frizz. And if I don't brush it, it looks messy. What to do? I can't stand wearing it up constantly, because it gives me serious headaches. And if I wear it down it gets in my way.

I'm known at church and among my other circles of friends for "always showing up with a new hairstyle." I don't know how many people have commented on my "creativity" and "variety" that I use on my hair, but it's a lot. I love to braid, twist, pin, and do all those sorts of things that create new looks. The trouble is, I get bored with one look quickly, and so does my hair. What works one week looks bad the next. And it frustrates me that, though I have many of my "own" styles, I can't reproduce the looks all my straight-smooth-bouncy-perfect-haired friends have all the time.

I don't truly want to cut my hair short, for many reasons. I believe a woman ought to have hair that looks like woman's hair, plus all my family members like my hair long. And I know that wearing my hair long makes me feel more feminine. But every so often I get fed up with having hair.

Okay, now I'm laughing at myself. It sounds so silly, to write it out, but that's the way I feel!

Well...maybe not. I'd love having hair if it would just behave. It gets worse when I look at pictures of other women, who have perfect hair. "Why won't mine do that?"

Well, as Mom would say, it's just a stage. I guess every girl goes through those cycles of hating and loving her hair. And I think that resisting the temptation to get a short, boyish cut, which would be much easier to take care of, is one reason why long hair is a glory to a woman; it's a sign that she can resist temptation. :)

This has got to be one of the most frivolous posts I've written in awhile, but what good is a blog if I can't rant here sometimes? Yet I do feel exposed, realizing that I've publicly admitted that I actually think about such earthly things as the way my hair looks. :) :) :) :) Next thing you know, I'll be admitting that I have 15 pairs of shoes. Not, you understand, that such a thing is possible.....

(....did I just say that?...)


Ruth Ann said...


oh Amber, I've felt the same way, many times.

I have been through the I-don't-know-what-to-do-with-my-hair-so-I-cut-it-shorter phase, and then knowing I like my longer hair but am frustrated cause I don't know what to do with it.

And right now...I'm in the almost-frustration mode. Day after day after day after day I pull it back in a barrette and that's all there is to it. I'd like some variety.

So we are opposites in're very creative, I'm not. =)

I don't have the talent of my sisters who can braid their own hair and each other's and come up with various hair styles. Though when they have time I ask them if they would put mine up, and they happily oblige.

But you know, Amber,...I really appreciated your perspective here:

And I think that resisting the temptation to get a short, boyish cut, which would be much easier to take care of, is one reason why long hair is a glory to a woman; it's a sign that she can resist temptation. :)

"It's a sign that she can resist temptation." Oh yes, I'm going to remember that. And hopefully, hopefully, hopefully can figure out some ways to overcome this frustration and have a 'new look' to this head of hair!

And, I hope that you can find some relief from your frustration as well!!!

julia said...

I can totally relate to those feelings! "Take care of the *stuff*" LOL I know! :D I'm 'kinda feeling like that right now.... whether or not I should cut it.... I get these feelings every Summer when the weather heats up though! Just turn on the window-unit and wait a few minutes... it'll pass, right? :) I think I want to trim off a couple inches though, I think its like almost 30" right now!
The headache thing too.... I used to do buns alot, but recently they seem to really annoy my scalp and it gets to itchy, so right now I'm stuck in the "pony-tail-rut" :o)
I don't know if I've ever commented before, but I've been reading your blog for quite awhile.... I like the sewing posts and your perspective on things :)
~julia in Oklahoma

Amber said...

Ruth Ann: Thanks for the comment. :) It's so nice to know I'm not alone in my feelings! If it's any encouragement to you, I think I'm pulling out of the "phase" for now, at least; I've gotten some new inspiration for working with my hair; mainly consisting of scheduling time in my morning to actually take a few minutes to do a good job on my hair, and then look presentable for the rest of the day, rather than take a few seconds to twist hair and stick a claw clip in, and then cringe all day long when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror. :) :) Hope you find some solutions as well!

Julia: I don't remember you commenting here before either, so welcome, welcome, welcome! I'm always happy when secret blog readers come out and introduce themselves. :) Thanks for the encouragement. You mentioned my sewing posts; do you sew? I've been doing SO much of it this past week, chipping away at my pile of "current projects." (I have a tub with that label on it, and I practically have to sit on it to close it!) It feels so good to get stuff done! :) I'm glad I "ranted" about my hair, if it got you to come out of the woodwork and introduce yourself. lol. Welcome again!

julia said...

Thanks for "welcoming me out of the woodwork"! :)
Yes, I do sew..... if you check out my blog you can see practically everything I sew! My to do/finish/mend box/pile is pretty big too. I should *ban* myself from starting any new projects or buying any more fabric before starting anything else! See how long it takes me to finish it all! :D

WesternWoodburner said...

*chuckle* Yes, I can relate!